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heatherbeanoyler
4 days ago10 min read
Choosing Myself: The Heartache of Divorce, the Hope of Healing, and Valentine’s Day Reflections
Valentine's Day looks different this year, post divorce, and here I am still choosing to choose myself.
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heatherbeanoyler
Jan 304 min read
Heather's 2025 Valentine's Day Gift Guide
2025 Valnetine's Day Gift Guide for you love yourself with!
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heatherbeanoyler
Jan 96 min read
A Letter to the Me of 2024
A letter to the me of 2024: a work of gratitude and reflection to the version of me that made it through 2024 with dignity and grace.
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heatherbeanoyler
Dec 19, 20245 min read
Wellness and Mental Health During the Holidays
Keeping myself healthy and happy during the holiday season with these simple steps!
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heatherbeanoyler
Dec 5, 20244 min read
Heather's Holiday Gift Guide 2024
Heather's Holiday Gift Guide is here for 2024 and is full of picks for the special people on your list!
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heatherbeanoyler
Nov 26, 20243 min read
Heather's Spanx Favorites: Holiday Edition!
My favorites from the SPANX Holiday Gift Guide 2024 are some of the best picks this season! I love SPANX and becoming an affiliate for...
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heatherbeanoyler
Nov 7, 20246 min read
Survival Mode
How do you survive when life is dragging you down? Here are some helpful tools I have learned to get through--I call it "Survival Mode"
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heatherbeanoyler
Oct 17, 20246 min read
Going Home
Going home can mean different things for different people. Here's what it means to me.
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heatherbeanoyler
Jul 25, 20246 min read
Don't Let Anyone Dull Your Sparkle
Finding my sparkle after years of not knowing who I was.
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heatherbeanoyler
Jun 27, 20244 min read
Keep It Pop-Up, Peoria!: A Review of Pop Up Chicken Shop in Downtown Peoria, IL
A quick and fun review of Pop Up Chicken Shop in Downtown Peoria
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heatherbeanoyler
Jun 6, 20245 min read
Domestic Violence in Local Headlines
News of domestic violence is always hard to hear, and this time is no different. Here are some things I am trying to do to help.
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heatherbeanoyler
May 8, 20249 min read
My Recovery Journey: The Public's Response to My Story
The reaction I have gotten from sharing my story.
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heatherbeanoyler
Apr 11, 202416 min read
Dancing for My Life
How dance shaped my life from childhood to today.
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heatherbeanoyler
Mar 21, 202417 min read
My Recovery Journey: Where It All Began
The beginning of my journey to where I am today.
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heatherbeanoyler
Mar 14, 202425 min read
My Recovery Journey: Forced into Hiding
When I was dropped off at the Orlando airport by my driver, it was so vacant and there were very few people in sight. As I made my way...
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heatherbeanoyler
Mar 7, 202418 min read
My Recovery Journey: The Refuge
My experience in a residential treatment facility in Florida in 2020.
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heatherbeanoyler
Feb 29, 202413 min read
My Recovery Journey: The Events That Led Me to Treatment
A note to you before you begin to read my story: Trigger warning! This article contains events of abuse and domestic violence. Do not...
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heatherbeanoyler
Feb 23, 20249 min read
To all the Peoria Haters
To all of the people that love to hate on Peoria, Peoria has been my home for about the last 13 years. In celebration of the city I love,...
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heatherbeanoyler
Feb 15, 20247 min read
To the Girl Who Wants to Throw a Party
Tips for the girl who wants to throw a fabulous party!
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heatherbeanoyler
Feb 9, 20246 min read
A Letter to the Woman Who Is Afraid to Live Alone
To the woman who is afraid to live alone, Going through a divorce is something that changes you. It brings up fears and doubt. As you...
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